This week our brilliant dad feature is Michael who blogs at This real life Dad. He is Dad to two children, a girl and a boy, Alba, who is two years old and Arran who is nearly six months.
He is a husband to his beautiful wife, Ruth.
He has only just started blogging recently as he has been in and out of hospital and needed something to do to pass the time. His posts will mainly highlight his life as a dad, husband and most likely a few about his illness too. Michael is an awesome new dad blogger and I recommend you check out his blog because you will not be disappointed.
Thank you to Michael for taking part.
1. Have you always wanted to be a dad?
Simple answer is yes, for as long as I can remember I have always wanted to be a Dad. I’m from a very large family so I’ve spent my whole life around babies and children so it always felt like it was just a matter of when I became a dad rather than if I became a dad. My children are my whole life and my greatest achievement in my life.
On the run up to my first, I was very calm and feeling really excited rather than nervous. However, despite our meticulous birthing plan we soon realised things weren’t going to go how we envisaged and that we would need midwife intervention to help driver the baby safely. My calmness quickly turned into nerves, although I tried not to let that show. Towards the end of labour we kept losing the baby’s heartbeat, Ruth had become very unwell and it was obvious that the baby was becoming more and more distressed. The midwives had to use forceps to basically play tug of war with the baby and Ruth. On the third tug, out popped the most perfect baby girl. In that moment I suddenly went very calm again and got to hold my daughter almost instantly. That was the most surreal but greatest moment of mt life.
During the second labour my wife had similar problems to the first, this time we were more prepared and decided to go for a C-section. As this was not planned it was classed as an emergency section but the midwives and doctors dealt with everything so calmly and were all so reassuring that it felt really nice. Again, I was a wreck inside but I think I hid it well. Well I did until they lifted my son over the sheet and placed him into my arms. At that moment, I’m not ashamed to admit, I lost control of my emotions and cried my heart out.
3. What have been the most rewarding experiences been so far?
My most rewarding experience so far is seeing how close my two children are. Although they are both still young they love each other so much. Not one single day goes by where they aren’t kissing, hugging, talking or laughing their heads of at each other.
I’m so close with all my siblings and I hope to be able to instil that same desire and love into all my kids.
I left the house on a Monday morning to go for a food shop. Finished the shop and got back home to find a big pink hair clip was still in my hair from playing hairdresser with my daughter earlier. My daughter found that hilarious.
I can’t think of much other specific moments but the one memory that keeps popping into my head is coming home from work most evenings and my daughter wanting to play, tickle and jump all over me. We would roll around the floor in fits of laughter for hours.
The hardest situation to cope with in my 2, nearly 3, years as a dad was when Alba got chicken pox as a baby and ended up in hospital. From start to finish I think it only lasted about a week but as she was so young her body couldn’t fight the infection and she got them so badly. For days we just had to hold her to comfort her, she was inconsolable all day and night with me and my wife basically tag teamin’ so that we could get an hours sleep.
So basically, seeing your children ill when there is not a lot you can do to help is the hardest thing I’ve had to cope with.
Plus more recently… the tantrums and when they point-blank refuse to listen to you, I find that very hard to know they best way to deal with. Oh and that noise a toddler makes having a tantrum is the most horrible and frustrating to hear, so hopefully they don’t last much longer.
6. What are your dreams and hopes for your children?
I actually just wrote about this in my blog post, What I want my kids to be like when they grow up… so give that a read for full insight. Basically I want them to be healthy, proud of themselves, ambitious but mostly just happy.
I don’t think any of us can want for more than for our babies to be happy.