As a parent blogger I have begun to wonder that as I chronicle my four year old twin girls lives, am I leaving them open to ridicule and bullying from school friends or friends as they grow older? The thought that crossed my mind is are we possibly giving out too much information about our children online?
This thought all came about because my 19 year old daughter text me recently to say that a post I had written about 12 months ago which I revived in a tweet had a couple of sentences that she found embarrassing and she didn’t want her friends to see it. This shocked me because I never thought for one minute her friends read my blog, let alone knew I had a blog, but apparently they do. Needless to say I removed it instantly. Which is something I will always do. With my older children I have as a general rule run posts passed them first, to make sure they are happy with them. My intention is never to embarrass them as I write about them growing up and my relationship with them. It’s just simply to leave an electronic footprint for them to read one day, and hopefully relive some memories that they may have forgotten.
All of this got me thinking very carefully about how much information I divulge about my four year old twin girls. Am I going into to much detail of every milestone or adventure in their short lives because as the adult I have to be responsible about how much I disclose of their childhoods, because of course they can’t have a decision on what I publish simply because of their age.
At the moment they are in the first year of their education so their friends in school have no idea that in our case that Mummy and Daddy write blogs which are family based, so they simply can’t be ridiculed or embarrassed by us because their friends aren’t old enough to read or understand, but as they head into junior school their friends could read something which although when written I considered possibly insignificant or funny, but when they are 10 or 11 years old it may be not so funny and could easily be taken out of context by friends, leaving our children vulnerable and open to bullying.
I have like many other parent bloggers chronicled my children’s lives in full detail. I rarely hold back and usually include the good, the bad and the sometimes ugly.
The question I am now asking myself is that although I want my blog to be real and people to engage with my writing, should I be holding back just a little to protect my children especially my four year old twins who are growing up where social media and the internet are going to be a huge part of their lives, and of course social media is a great place place to socialise, but it is also in danger of being a very nasty vindictive place which people of course can do so often do anonymously. Which is very frightening.
If you google your blog and click on images you will be shocked at how many pictures of your children will come up. It certaintly shocked me. For all the world to see.
Writing a family/parenting blog has without question been a joy to do and I have always felt I have acted responsibly with my posts and photos of my children, but even so am I putting them at risk or in danger? After all I have no idea who is reading it.
Would love to know your thoughts on the subject and do you hold back what you publish about your children especially when they are young and unable to decide for themselves?