Sisters: My Sunday Photo

On Wednesday just gone it was my birthday, and my 20 year old daughter came home from university for a few days. Which was wonderful as I got to see her on my birthday, many moments make your life worthwhile, and my Sunday Photo this week is without a doubt, one of them. Whenever my daughter E comes home from university, her sisters R and M are so excited to see her, they love having her around, and cuddles are the order of the day. They are always asking her when she is due back home so they can see… [Read More]

The Older I Get The More It Hurts: Siblings

Another year has passed and I’m another year older. The older I get, the more think of the estranged relationships I have with my brother and sister, and quite honestly it hurts a bit more every year. When I was born I had a mother, father, brother and sister. I have on many previous occasions written how this family nucleus became estranged and dysfunctional. However, cutting a long story short, I only have a relationship with my mum, and my father passed away a few years ago, not that it made any difference to our relationship because we simply didn’t… [Read More]

Having Children: Does It Help Or Put Pressure On Your Relationship?

When you meet the one, those early times of your relationship are wonderful and carefree. You can please yourselves and do what you want, when you want. You can both be incredibly selfish and my goodness it is wonderful! Totally loved up and just each other to worry about. What could possibly go wrong? Children can either help and improve your relationship, or they can send it on a road to disaster. I have in truth lived through both in two marriages. In my first marriage, we had three children in the space of three and half years. It took… [Read More]

Divorce Helped Me Form A Strong Bond With My Older Children

Coming from a divorced family life as a child, it would for many years cement the fact in my mind that I never wanted children. It wasn’t until my eldest child was born that I realised I’d felt that way originally  because my own parents simply didn’t care about their children. They were far too selfish and pre-occupied with their own needs. Then I got married and from my first marriage, I had three children who are now aged 22, 20 and 18 years old. The marriage to my first wife was toxic for a long time and it was… [Read More]

The Ingredients Of A Happy Relationship

I am always amazed when I read what so called experts in relationships consider the key factors that make a happy relationship. I have long thought that people today, especially the younger generation jump into relationships much too quickly. It seems to me that as quick as people meet each other, they are moving in together and possibly having a baby. This all happens before you have had any chance to get to know each other and have a better understanding if you’re actually compatible. Before you know it, you’ve split up and you’re left to re-build your life, which… [Read More]

I Was Once Part Of A Happy Family Of Five 

In the near future I will be doing a blog post about a company that basically revitalises all your old black & white photos. So at this point I decided to raid my mum’s house for as many old black and white photos that I could find,  and wow! What a shock I was in for. Regular readers of my blog will on occasion come across posts that are about how dysfunctional and messed up my childhood was. So it came as a huge surprise when I came across about six or seven photos showing when I was part of… [Read More]

Chatting To My Five Year Old Twins About Family 

For half of the school week I drop off and pick up my five year old twin girls from school. When I pick them up I always ask the same question. What did you do in school today? 99 times out of 100 I get the same reply which is a wall of silence or nothing or I can’t remember. The other day came as a huge surprise to me. I’m not sure if they were learning about family in school, but R announced to me whilst sitting in the back of the car. “Dad?”, yes R I said. She… [Read More]

Relationships (Don’t Change Me) Learn To Compromise 

Relationship’s are a minefield. They can be full of mis-trust, paranoia, arguments or least that’s what we read about most of the time. Forming a relationship to me is a strange process because we meet somebody and we must be before anything else, physically attractive to each other. It’s that split second that your head explodes, your stomach does somersaults and you think, wow, and you have a very disturbing looking permanent smile that you can’t remove from your face! Yes! You have found someone! Now you have to talk and not make a complete fool of yourself and start… [Read More]

5 good habits to get into in a new relationship

Starting a relationship can be exciting and you may have high hopes for the future with your new partner. But while you might not be able to keep the smile off your face right now, how do you know things will work out with your other half in the long term? The short answer is you don’t. However, there are things you can do to maximise your chances of staying together and staying strong as a couple. Here are five good habits to get into while you’re still in the honeymoon phase.  1. Be open and honest about sex Sex… [Read More]

Physical Violence in Relationships 

I recently read a post by Alan at Omg it’s a girl about domestic violence, and that in Ireland there is a campaign underway. The statistics of domestic violence that Alan quoted were massive, but it didn’t surprise me one bit, especially the figures of domestic violence against men by their partners, wive’s or girlfriends. The post brought back some personal unhappy memories for me. Which I hadn’t thought about for a long while, but felt need to write it down. For years the stigma attached to men being abused by the women in their lives has been swept under… [Read More]