Conversations with my four year olds: Gender Stereotyping

After having a conversation with my four year old twins the other day about what they wanted to be when they were older, it got me thinking.


It got me to thinking that they have no idea about gender sterotyping in society, but the reality is it’s alive and kicking. My hope and dream is that by the time they are old enough to understand about gender sterotyping that it has been eradicated once and for all in society. It’s manipulative behaviour  does conditions them that pink is for girls and blue is for boys. The twins were conceived at the same time and born within two minutes of each other, yet their similarity ends there. Their characters are very different.
The conversation was really quite fascinating. M was pretending to cut my hair with plastic scissors and R was brushing it while I sat on the floor. M said to me I think I want to be a hairdresser when I’m older, but swiftly changed her mind. No, actually I want to be an indigo unicorn called Twilight Star and live on indigo land she said. Can I be that dad? I didn’t have the heart to say no! Of course you can! Why burst the bubble of innocence? She’s only four.


R then spoke up and said I want to be rugby player and a football player when I grow up and asked me would you come and watch me. To which I replied of course I will. I’ll come to every game you ever play.
All the time my twin girls continued to give me a pretend haircut! I mentioned to both of them that you can be anything you want to be., but they were very certain what they wanted.
Why can’t society and shops and people in general take the time out to listen to four year olds! They might realise that they are indivuals and shouldn’t be conditioned by their gender in allowing them to be free spirits and wear and do whatever they want to.


The fascinating thing for me is that although they are twins, their personalities and characters and tastes are very different. That’s not to say that on occasions they like the same things.
My twins are most definitly girls as defined by gender, but one is most certaintly more girlie and the other has a liking for what society conceives as boys tastes.


Eradicating gender sterotyping is slowly becoming a passion for me and we need to remove it from society.

12 thoughts on “Conversations with my four year olds: Gender Stereotyping

  1. Its so fascinating isnt it? Ihave a boy and a girl and the difference is startling. Whos to say whats down to sex, what personality and what down to how we impose our expectations on them. I love your haircut by the way!

  2. This is so true. My four year old boy loves dressing up as Elsa from Frozen but whenever anyone sees him they say 'don't worry, he'll grow out!' I think, I'm not worried about him wearing a dress, I'm worried about your narrow mindedness!! Totally agree with you!x

  3. Totally agree with you! Anybody should be able to do whatever they want to do regardless of gender. My little girl though favors pink but she does like to play toys that her brother plays with, so as my son likes to play dollies at times as well. Lovely post! #justanotherlinky

  4. As long as people like us keep telling them that they can be anything they want to be, they will continue to believe it. The trick is making sure they don't listen to those that say they can't #justanotherlinky

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