If I am entirely honest I never thought for one minute that I would experience any form of gender stereotyping in our schools, let alone primary school when dealing with four/five year old children, but I have in just the last few days.
If we are going to eradicate gender issues and allow our children to be who they want to be and like what they want then we need to start when they are young.
It infuriates me that our teachers, and obviously not all teachers, are deciding for the future generations that they are if they are a girl they are not allowed to like superheroes, they must be a pretty little princesses, all dressed in pink and if they are a boy they are not allowed to play with dolls.
Regular readers of my blog will know I have four year old twins girls and they may possibly know that although born at exactly the same time with the same DNA, they are so completely different! A post I wrote a while ago, Superhero v Princess explains how different their personalities and characters are.
Both of my twin girls are fully aware that they are girls, but R has a preference toward superhero toys which surely have to be available to boys and girls.
On the other side, M loves just about anything that is pink and I actually think in her mind she thinks she is a princess and that is absolutely fine and who am I to burst her bubble?
So the other day they came out of school as usual, but with R, you can always tell if something is bothering her and on this particular day she was very pre-occupied. When she is like this, the best plan of action is to wait until she tells you.
Finally she spoke about the issue that was bothering her and I have to admit I was shocked completely that this happened in their school.
The teacher had told the class that she had brought advent calendars. One was a boy themed calendar and the other was a girl themed calendar according to R.
R absolutely loves superheroes. She wears her Spider-Man cap everyday to school and she was very definite that she didn’t want a girls advent. She was pretty upset to be honest. This is wrong on every level to me. Since when are advent calendars gender specific? Does it really matter which one our daughters and sons pick?
Why is my four year old daughter being denied the chance to open the ‘boy’ advent calendar just because she’s a girl? This has been put in her head by somebody that should know better.
We have had to speak to the teacher to allow R to open the boys advent calendar because she’ll get herself upset about it. How absurd is that in 2016? After all on the weekend just gone their Nanna my mum brought them advent calendars from Asda and R picked marvel and M picked Frozen, and that’s absolutely fine because contrary to belief girls like superheroes too and if they want can be superheroes if they do wish!
I came to the conclusion that as much as I felt gender stereotyping was changing for the better I find it rearing its ugly head in my four year old twins school.
Finally, I simply cannot not comprehend why two advent calendars were brought and labelled by gender because whether you are a boy or girl you can pick from either one.
This may sound very trivial, but it is planting a seed in their young minds that may take a very long time to remove or in fact hold them back in achieving their dreams.
If we are to nurture a generation of children that strive and believe that they can achieve anything, which could be prime minister or a beauty queen. We need to stop brainwashing them with this sort of rubbish at such a young age when they can be very susceptible to believing that girls can only be princesses and boys are our leaders and superheroes.
This is our future generation that will one day run this world of ours,so no matter what their gender let’s make them strive and believe that they can do anything and be exactly what they want without any restrictions.
Have you experienced any gender stereotyping in your children’s school? I would love to hear.