IVF Rollercoaster of Dreams 

The IVF journey is one that I would compare to a rollercoaster of emotions. It can be heartbreaking, yet at the other end of the scale it can bring incredible joy. It’s a bit like getting to the end of the rainbow to find your pot of gold, but with IVF it’s having that wonderful moment when you get to hold your new born baby and all the heartache is taken away.

Unfortunately it doesn’t always work out that way, but here is my story.

My wife and I were, for various reasons not eligible for NHS treatment so we had to go down the route of a private clinic, which is expensive, and in all honesty when we started out I didn’t see how we would be able to do more than one cycle because of this being simply down to the cost. I wrote a post about private clinics overcharging which you can read here.

Our IVF journey started very quickly and before I knew it we were straight onto the standard tests that have to be done and we had a consultation with the consultant. Before I know it we very quickly had dates set for sperm retrieval and then all the medication that my wife needed to take for egg removal was piled up on our living room table! Then it was time for the embryo transfer.

The way we are as people always meant that we would want everything to be done as it should be, without deviation and that meant that my wife’s injections were done at the same time every day, almost to the minute.

One of the pressures of IVF is that the only people you have for support is one another, because it’s for whatever reason generally not spoken about over Sunday dinner with family!

Saying that though, there are many support groups online that are invaluable because there is always a million questions and yes, Google can give you the answers, but sometimes you just want to hear somebody’s experience of maybe part of the journey. Although I will say that most groups are female dominated and I understand that, but for me there were many occasions where I really wanted to speak to another male about things and my fears and hopes.

This may sound strange, but we didn’t really pick our clinic. I always felt it was destiny. This is because they’re a new clinic which had not long opened and we just came across them online one day and I guess it just felt right.

What inspired me to write this post about a small part of our IVF journey was a report I read by the BBC show Panorama about extras that are offered to patients by clinics that cost thousands. It has been said that after research these treatments are of little or no help. I’m sure that there are plenty of clinics out there that are praying on people’s desperation to have a baby.

The only seperate cost to the treatment was the drugs required for the IVF procedure.

The clinic we used never at any point pressured or tried to sell us extra treatments. They told us what the cost was and were very transparent with their price lists and they behaved in a very ethical and moral way. This I believe is down to two very responsible medical professionals who believed in what they were doing. I reaslise it is also a business and they are making a very good living, but to me it didn’t cloud their decisions when dealing with us.

Our clinic was always on hand to help us and there on the phone for anything that may have been trivial, but sometimes we just needed reassuring and they never let us down.

Our IVF journey ended with the birth of our beautiful twin girls after our first attempt. I guess we were lucky. I don’t know maybe it was just meant to be and it was our turn. I got to hold my twin girls in my arms as soon as they were born even though they were six weeks early, but that moment I wouldn’t swap for anything in the world.

The IVF rollercoaster is emotional, sometimes desperate, and unless you have ridden the IVF rollercoaster it’s impossible to explain to anybody the worry and nerves and how desperate you feel because you just want it to work. Sadly there will always be people that use that desperation to fill their pockets with money giving promises of false hope. Contrary to the report by the BBC Panorama documentary I wanted to balance out that are also good ethically run clinics out there.

Have you had any experiances of IVF clinics good or bad I would to hear your thoughts.

25 thoughts on “IVF Rollercoaster of Dreams 

  1. Lovely post. Such a shame that some many companies don’t think about how they’re playing on people’s deep felt and serious emotions to make money. Glad you found a good one though. #thatfridaylinky

  2. Oh it must have been a rollercoaster of emotions for both of you, also the added pressure knowing that you really needed it to work first time. I had a friend who went through it but she was very lucky in that she was able to get it on the NHS. It is awful that these private clinics are preying on the emotions of people who are going through something that makes them very vulnerable. I am so cross to read that they have been pushing extra treatments that cost thousands but don’t do anything. Awful and disgusting. Should be made illegal really! Sounds like you were very lucky to find a brilliant clinic and now you have two amazing girls – yaay! #ThatFridayLinky

  3. I cannot begin to imagine the pressure, the stress, the heartache and the uncertainty with IVF 🙁 It’s horrible that there are private clinics preying on such desperation and fear.

    So happy it worked for you the first time and you got two gorgeous little ladies!! xx

  4. Fortunate enough to get pregnant anytime my husband looks at me so can’t say that I have been down this road. Happy for you both – the end result is amazing. Your twinnies are lovely!


  5. So glad it worked first time for you guys. I didn’t know about hidden costs and some potential for conning vulnerable people a little to pay that bit more. I’m glad you had a clinic who were upfront and honest; you need that at such a stressful time! Thanks for hosting xx

  6. I’m so glad that it worked out for you both, IVF can be utterly heartbreaking. I don’t speak about it on my blog given I am no longer with my ex husband and I figure that is only half my story to share, but we went through years of fertility treatment and IVF together, and to lose those babies through the pregnancy was just unbearable, even more so given how much we had been through to get them. I sympathise with anyone going through IVF, I think you have to be a really strong couple to survive it, I think for my ex husband and I it was just one knock too many. Thank you for hosting. #thatfridaylinky

  7. It’s so good to hear a positive story for those people out there looking to start their own IVF journey hopefully they are just as fortunate to find a good clinic. And now you have your beautiful girls! Thank you for hosting #ThatFridayLinky

  8. I can’t begin to imagine what it feels like to go through IVF treatment it must take a lot of strength! I must admit it had never crossed my mind how much money the clinics are making, quite naive really, it angers me to think how they are taking advantage of people who are already in such emotional turmoil. Thank you for sharing a bit of your story! so glad you found a clinic with the right ethics and got two beautiful girls with their help xx #fridaylinky

  9. IVF sounds like such a hellish journey, I always admire the strength and courage of any couple who have put themselves through such efforts to get their babies into the world. Xxx #thatfridaylinky

  10. No personal journey or prior knowledge but my sister and brother in law had twin boys this year as a result of IVF. It’s amazing and a little miracle. #thatfridaylinky

  11. This is such a lovely post, with a the drama coming from Panoramas expose; I did wonder how people who had gone through IVF felt.
    As someone who also had fertility issues but was fortunate to fall very quickly and thankfully naturally; I like to think I can sympathise to an extent due to us expecting to have to do the natural attempts before the NHS would intervene with medication and tests to confirm the issue we already knew we had.
    It’s amazing that it worked first time for you, I don’t think I’ve known anyone lucky enough.
    It is so nice to know that there are clinics out there not ripping people off at such an emotional and sensitive time! #thatfridaylinky

  12. Such a lovely personal insight <3 My Dad and Step-Mum went through IVF and did have a few ups and downs but did manage to give birth to my brother and sister who are now 4 and nearly a year old. I have been told that there were a few unsuccessful attempts and that the last attempt they could afford by some miracle saw the birth of my little sister. Definitely sounds like a complete emotional rollercoaster to me! #thatfridaylinky

  13. A great post as always 🙂 It’s sad to say that it’s not surprising at all that a lot of places are trying to con desperate people, I guess it’s just the world we live in nowadays which is a real shame. I’m so glad it worked out so well, your girls are gorgeous 🙂 #ThatFridayLinky

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