I am dad to four year old twin girls and you would not believe how their personalities and characters are so completely different.
R was born first by two minutes and this girl loves Captain America, Superman and her all time favourite Spider-Man, and just about every other Superhero. What has fascinated me is that she has not been influenced by her older brother. Just quite simply one day Spider-Man became a very big obsession, but why, I ask.
I have no idea. I like superheroes but I am far from obsessed. The girls mostly watch CBeebies and there are no superheroes there. R just likes those types of characters. During a visit to the supermarket with their mum a couple of weeks ago they had dressing up costumes on sale. R picked Superman and M picked the Little Mermaid. When my wife went to pay the woman serving put the superman costume through the till and said oh you have a little boy too? R’s lip just dropped. How wrong! Girls are allowed to like Superheroes too.
She likes dolls as well, but in our stereo typical society it seems that girls are not allowed to like superheroes as it’s seen as a boy thing. Total rubbish!
It’s about time shops, especially supermarkets made a children’s clothing section that don’t make girls feel awkward about looking at superhero costumes.
M is the younger of the twins and there is no doubt she loves all the more stereotypical girl things.
She has a massive collection of dolls, loves anything pink and loves barbie, Anna, Elsa and yes, she also loves Prince Hans and Kristoff.
When dressing up she always opts for princesses, ballerinas or the little mermaid. So what does that mean?
Will she grow up to be a blonde with air between her ears and just do as she is told by a boyfriend/husband? Not a chance! She may like dressing as a princess, but she is intelligent, quick witted and a determined character and she knows exactly what she wants. The truth is she could be a doctor, lawyer or a white van woman driver.
They may be twins and born at the same time, but they are also very different and as a parent I feel we should embrace and encourage them to like whatever they want.
Society has a habit of deciding how the male should behave and what they should dress like and do. The same for women. Females should behave and dress in a certain way etc. In my opinion that’s total rubbish! Lets drag the world into 2016 screaming and kicking! It’s ok to be and like what you want whatever your gender. The world needs to be more tolerant of people’s choices. We would have a much happier world.
Whatever the girls become or do with their lives they will both be supported and loved 100% by Mummy and Daddy.