My Blogging Dilemma Where Next?

I have been blogging for nearly four years nearly and it has become harder than ever this year to find the inspiration, desire and will at times to write.

There could be a number of reasons why this is the case, and quite possibly some of it has to be put down to an amount of ill health that I have had this year. This has put my whole life into perspective, and I now realise that family is far more important than anything else.

As such blogging has taken a back seat as I have made my recovery to full health, which has taken some time. I also don’t want to be on my phone constantly answering emails or anything blogging related.

A couple of years ago I wrote a post about how I believe the blogging world is like the four tiers of a wedding cake. At the time of writing this I believed I was somewhere between tier two and three, with little hope, I thought, of ever reaching the top tier.

I have always been driven and very competitive, and I wanted to be recognised as one of the top dad bloggers in the UK. I won’t pretend that I didn’t want to be in the top 10 dad bloggers lists such as Vuelio because I did, and I have now been in that list for the last three years, as well as achieving a top 10 spot in the parent bloggers list also by Vuelio. This is an achievement that I am immensely proud of and also this year, my blog became award winning, which is something I worked hard to achieve.

Now though I have reached my first ever massive dilemma in blogging, and for months I’ve begun to wonder if it is all worth it, staying in bloggers lists, getting good stats, promoting yourself constantly, and yes it has been worth it, especially on the monetary side of things, but it’s exhausting and it has become a chore. Blogging is no longer fun for me. Charts, stats etc. I have begun to realise they are really not that important personally, and once you have achieved it, it’s very difficult to maintain it. It’s an unnecessary pressure in life.

This has left me uninspired and lacking belief in my writing, and at a point as to where do I go next with my blog?

I never wanted to be all about sponsored work, but I have been seduced by it, and started to like the money way too much, and at the expense of writing organic, natural posts, which is why I guess people read my blog to begin with. I always felt my writing was edgy and hopefully insightful, now it feels contrived, not all the time, but a fair bit. It’s like I have found a formula for sponsored posts and can write what feels like the same post, but adjust it to a product or brand accordingly. I truly don’t know if that is a good or bad thing, but it doesn’t make me happy that’s for sure. I want to get back to where I was, but I wonder if I can. The enthusiasm is quite simply not the same, and now it’s time to decide how I evolve this blog of mine.

I guess for whatever reason, and I’m not sure if I am deserving of being in the top tier of bloggers, but I suppose I am. Do I want to be? Well yes, it’s nice being recognised as a top blogger, but it also makes me feel very uncomfortable as it’s not my natural habitat, and I don’t feel I have the right to be there, which is very much a self-esteem and confidence issue.

I am disillusioned with social media. There was a time it was friendly and fun to be on interacting with people and well, just having a laugh. Now it has become all about numbers and the promotion of your latest blog post or vlog. My timeline is only full of peoples recent collaborations, mine included. What happened to the fun on social media, the chat and the banter that was so much fun to be part of.

So this has all left me with a blogging dilemma. Something I have never felt before. Do I continue as I am, which is not what I really want, but how do I shake it up, or do I just let the blog slip into the internet wilderness?

Some people reading this may think wow what’s his problem, he is doing ok, and yes you would be right I am doing ok, but I’m not particularly happy with the direction my blog is taking.

I have a decision to make about the future of my blog and what will make me happy in the blogosphere, or perhaps not to be a part of the blogosphere. That is the question.

Do you ever have a moment when blogging just seems like too much effort? I would love to hear.

19 thoughts on “My Blogging Dilemma Where Next?

  1. You’re absolutely right with this post, it’s something I often have to think about. I frequently struggle with the pull of feeling like I HAVE to do my blog vs WANT to do my blog. Almost this pressure to release something three or four times a week. Yet it’s only a pressure I put on myself, and I have to remember why I started my blog…as a diary for my son. Once I think of that I’m more relaxed rather than trying to appeal to others. Perhaps it could help to think of why you started it and whether that’s still relevant?

  2. As you know, I blog full time and I often go through spells of questioning myself about whether I’m going in the right or wrong direction. Like you, I never set out with the intention of monetising my blog, but it has happened and it’s a big part of it now. I think the key is finding balance – I try to write as much for me as I do for others. Staying in touch with why you started is so important and I think you’ve definitely stayed true to that as you write loads of non-sponsored stuff. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

  3. Seeing how I’m just coming back after a year’s absence I would answer yes, I do sometimes feel like itls too much. But I did miss it and it feels good to be back. #ThatFridayLinky

  4. I agree with PEACHY. I’ve been blogging for ten years. Initially, I posted daily; the page rankings were quite high and the money decent. But the novelty wore off after a while. It became a chore.

    Then I took a hiatus, came back and now only blog for fun.


  5. I think perhaps you need to get back to your blogging roots and ditch the sponsored stuff just for just a couple of months, you may find it reenergises you.
    I often find blogging a chore, but that’s because I’m at the opposite end of the spectrum struggling to get noticed. But I’ll stick at it

  6. I haven’t been blogging as long as you (well, not full on – I’ve had a blog in some guise for over 10 years!). But I fell as you do already! I didn’t start blogging regularly to get paid, to get sponsored or to make money if I am honest. I just wanted to write. But, the odd paid post etc has come along and it’s nice to have a little side income – it at least paid for the 6 new passports we needed this year! But even with the posts, I want to write I struggle for inspiration at times, or even making time to do it. My site is – it signals that it’s a Dad or parent blog in some ways whereas I actually write about all sorts of things. Maybe the problem is a lack of niche? I am enjoying my running more than ever, so I am contemplating starting a running blog (well actually I have started but not publicising yet) to see if my creative juices are stirred by a subject I love.
    At least you’ve recognised you have some choices to make. I suppose the phrase “you’ll never work a day in your life if you do a job you enjoy” springs to mind.

  7. There’s no doubt if you commit to blogging regularly that feeling will always hit: what do I write about, indeed can I still write!!! As on who has only ever blogged non-commercially, I do love that feeling when you actually sit down at the keyboard, forget all the doubts, and just write #ThatFridayLiunky

  8. Blogging undoubtedly gets harder the longer you do it. If you’re writing about parenting, it can get repetitive when you write about your third child starting school. I’ve wondered many a time if it’s worth it. Most bloggers have. You also have your health to consider Nigel. That will have been a massive blow for you. Your writing when organic and heartfelt is superb. It’s a decision only you can take Nigel, but you would be missed. Thanks for hosting the linky.

  9. I’m nowhere near a top blogger and have patches I feel like this. I regularly just take a step back unannounced. I even stopped my posts being shared as much just to get back to basic conversations again. I hope you work out what’s best for you but I’m sure plenty of us would miss your posts. #ThatFridayLinky

  10. I started to feel like you, Nige and I’d only been blogging for 18 months! I ditched all paid work (for now) and decided to concentrate on my family, work and just living my life! I still blog but post fewer posts; maybe 2 per week if that. I plan to take a few weeks off soon. I hope you do keep blogging Nige as I enjoy your posts but perhaps take some time to decide what to do next? #thatfridaylinky

  11. I think while you’ve focussed on blogging – what you say is true of any walk of life. At times there are ‘why do I bother’, ‘is this what I want’ and ‘I don’t like where this is taking me’.

    These are the times to sit back a little, be selective in what you promote and post or even change tack completely – if you’ve found the perfect formula, refresh your approach and start a ‘how to do it my way: behind the scenes’ channel.

    You’ll still be helping people, and your content will be fresh and real – and hopefully bring back the excitement and fun for you.

  12. Sometimes I think you just have to strip it all back to basics and remember why you started blogging in the first place. What are the topics and style of posts you most enjoy writing?
    I think there’s a big difference between bloggers who write for SEO and bloggers who write with passion, but as a reader, I’d always choose to read the emotive posts. Write for you and not for your audience, and there you will find your mojo again.

    And as for sponsored posts, if it affords your family some extra luxuries than why the hell not.


  13. You have to do what feels right for you. I enjoy reading organic posts more as they have feeling behind them but then they don’t necessarily pay the bills. I know when I have a lot going on in other areas of my life my blog takes a hit. It would be a shame for you to give up entirely, you do write some great posts. #ThatFridayLinky

  14. Ah second comment today but I have to say – I think you have a gift of communication and genuinely connecting through your honesty and openness. You’ve been through a lot and persevered and now have wisdom and insight about lots of subjects, deep and lighter. Personally I think you should do what brings you joy, write if you want, about what you want, because there’s a reason for it, and that’s what brought you all the early success, you being your true self. Personally I just happened to come across your blog looking for articles on how to paint UPCv doors lol! and found your other entries about life issues extremely interesting and helpful, comforting and insightful. You have a gift in this way, of truly connected ccmmunication. I read somewhere that peace and contentment comes when our thoughts, our words, and our actions are all in agreement or aligned. Just my opinion but if you lose your essential self trying to fulfill the blogging world’s idea of success…that just doesn’t seem like it would make you feel good in life. You accomplished very wonderful goals of awards etc, and that’s important, it shows so many good things about you. You reached that pinnacle and that brought you joy..but perhaps there are now other mountains awaiting your attention. Your feelings are your best indicator of where you should go I think and continuing on in the same way doesn’t seem to be making you feel good from this post. when one door closes another opens, as they say, there has to be an ending to something for there to be a new beginning…go where you feel joy again. Thank you for your blog, it’s really fantastic and has helped me already today in several unrelated ways lol, a very fortuitous accident. Best wishes!

  15. I am quite new to blogging and don’t really feel I have got anywhere yet. Which I suppose is not surprising as I don’t really know where I want to go!
    But I will certainly watch your blog dilemma closely and will be interested to see how you get your blogging mojo back.
    Good luck!

  16. I’ve had this issue and I think its (for me) the pressure of the income being the difference between me staying at home with the kids or getting an office job. Perhaps do an additional blog post that’s a natural one by you on a set day every week, or put off a sponsored post until the next week to ensure at least one post a week is one you write for you.
    After a while that may satisfy you as you’ve still got an element of hobby in it too? #thatfridaylinky

  17. I guess I should feel lucky that I only write to write, and not for bigger an d better outcomes. Not that I woul dmind that, mind you… But when I write for me, I am okay with the time management. I can see having sponsored posts and such g=could churn the wrong feelings out quite easily. The good news, you are on your way to healthy, and happy is sure to follow. I hope that anyway! #thatfridaylinky xo

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