This week the brilliant dad feature is all about Kev who writes BringingHomeTheBaby. It’s all about his life as a father to a newborn baby. He started writing his blog so that he can hopefully hand it over to N, his child, when he is older and he says it will be just like a diary of his life. Kev says, life as a new dad is exciting, new and oh so different to before, and he wants to capture as much of it as possible for N and all the world on his blog.
Thank you to Kev for taking part.
1. Have you always wanted to be a dad?
I’ve imagined myself being a Dad for many years, probably since I was an early teenager. It’s probably quite unusual at that age to be thinking such things but I guess I always knew I’d want to settle down with a family (and then try to convince any children to be Tottenham fans!).
2. How did you feel when your children were born?
It’s a hard feeling to describe. I’m seeing my wife on the operating table having a C-Section, surgeons and other health specialists looking after her and the baby, and I’m feeling very excited, apprehensive and quite useless in many ways. Then when N was born I pretty much forgot everything in the room other than the baby and my wife. Everyone else may as well have not been there. I was called over to the baby as he was getting checked and weighed and all I remember thinking was “let me pick him up and go back to Clare”. That’s exactly what happened after a short while. The next thirty minutes as Clare was getting sorted just flew by, it seemed to pass in no time at all.
3. What have been your most rewarding experiences so far as a Dad?
For me the simple smiles N gives us each and every day are the most rewarding aspects of early fatherhood. A little tickles under the chin and you get a smile. “Beep” as you touch his nose and you get a smile. It’s a simple thing, an easy thing, but one that is so rewarding to me any other difficulties or challenges of the day just seem to fade away.
4. What are some of funniest moments to have happened to you as a dad?
It’s quite early in life for N at only 16 weeks old so most of the things that have been funny are just natural. Things like the time I was changing him when he was a bit younger and he did a poo all over the changing table and himself whilst changing his nappy, then did a wee all over, then proceeded to vomit all over himself and the changing mat too, a large proportion of which went all over me too. Or another time when I was changing his nappy in a changing room in a zoo and he did a poo all over my hand. Pretty normal stuff I think for a Dad in the early days!
5. Have there been any situations with your children that you have found difficult to cope with?
Honestly, nothing has been that difficult with him to be honest. The one thing that surprised me the most was the permanence of it all. Clearly you know beforehand that you will have this baby and it will be with you for many many years. When your baby is actually here, and you’re changing nappies constantly, and seemingly feeding constantly though, the permanence of it hits you sometimes, that your life has changed forever. It’s not to suggest it’s a bad thing of course, it’s just a completely different life.
6. What are your dreams and hopes for your children?
I just want him to be as happy as possible. I’m sure this is a feeling felt by most parents across the world, one for which you’ll do almost anything within your power. I don’t care what job he does, who he does or does not marry, where he goes or where he lives, just as long as he is happy. I’d love for him to be a Spurs fan too, and I’d be doubly joyful if that makes him happy as it’ll mean they’re doing well (though as a Spurs fan this probably won’t happen much!).