How to Raise an Optimistic Child
Optimism is learned. It’s not something we’re born with – though some people do seem to have a more naturally positive disposition, it’s something which can be taught. That’s good news because research proves that optimistic people actually live longer!
As a parent, of course you want your child to be happy and optimistic and especially if it means they may have a longer life! What about you? Are you optimistic? Pessimistic? A realist? If you’re not naturally optimistic, it’s vital that you take steps to alter that. After all, your child learns from you. The things you say and do colour their perception of the world around them and how they interact with other people.
Watch your language!
Try to use positive words and phrases as much as possible. Not just when you’re with your child but all the time. If you’re fully in the habit of being optimistic all the time, then there’s less chance of you slipping into pessimism in front of your child. This pre-prep school in Somerset supports children as they learn all about positivity in both words and deeds.
Positive words and phrases include:
- I can
- I will
- I can do this
- I can learn how to do this
- I’ll work hard and get what I want
Look at their negative counterparts:
- I can’t
- I won’t
- I can’t do this
- I can’t master this
- I’ll never get anything worthwhile
Ask yourself which of these are you more likely to say? Most of us are guilty of a little pessimism at times. Especially when we’re tired or upset. It’s important though to lean on the knowledge that optimism is catching, and your child will catch yours!
Helping children to appreciate life
Helping your child to be optimistic might take a little effort at first, but once those habits are set in place, they’re there for life.
Help your child to appreciate the small things. Discuss with them what they like most about their lives – and tell them what you like most about your life. Keep it to simple things which cost nothing.
Examples might be as follows.
- Cuddling in front of a film
- Having dinner together in the evening
- Watching the rain hit the window
- Lying in bed in clean pyjamas
- Playing with toys
This will serve to show your child that things we sometimes take for granted, are in fact quite special and to be appreciated. Once your child is in the habit of appreciating the small things, they will be more easily satisfied in general. A satisfied child is a happy child – and that’s where optimism lives.
