Are you looking for the most effective ways to strengthen your marriage and avoid considering a divorce? If you really want your marriage to work, then you will need to be more patient, avoid complaining, make an action plan, and stick to it. No matter how challenging and daunting it may seem, if you are serious about staying together for a lifetime, you need to take the lead. I am going to share some tips below which will serve as a powerful guide to help you avoid a separation.
Stop With The Arguing
“It’s all your fault”, “Why did you do this”? or “I’m done”! is just going to get your marriage to a fray with no hope of putting it back together again. Stop with the nagging, quit arguing over petty things like protecting daughter more than the son, not cooking the meals, cheating on your partner or not doing the dishes. These are only going to add to a grungy relationship. Be patient, calm the panic, and flay the anger bursts. Listen to your spouse, be reasonable when having discussions, and try to look at both sides of the picture instead of focusing on one specific part.
Curb the Urge to Play Victim
Instead of nagging “poor me”, focus on “proud me” and express it, so your spouse knows you are happy with the relationship and he/she is an important contributor to the joy in your life. While it is easy to play the blame game but that is not really an effective strategy. Show true appreciation for your partner by highlighting the positive aspects of your marriage and let your actions sway your relationship to cement it for more positive outcomes. Look for a win-win together and avoid the “How could you do this to me?” moments!
Dress Up Well
I would suggest you take some time out of your busy schedule to pamper yourself to support a more positive body image. Dress well, take care of your workouts and mental health, shop for your partner, and do not miss a moment to wear your favorite outfit on a special occasion like on a birthday or on an anniversary. Your body image and confidence go a long way in augmenting your relationship. If you want your partner to feel connected and bond well, then put in some diligence to work up the way you look.
Clear Out Past ill-wills
If you are going to lock hidden grudges and ill wills inside, there is no point of taking your marriage further. Understand that trust and compromise are the essences of any strong relationship. If you want yours to work, then clear out all those old hurts. Have a friendly discussion over all these resentments and grudges with your spouse, talk them over and find a solution together to let go of them and bury the hatchet.
Analyze Your Disposition
It is a wonderful idea to pick out the flaws and bad aspects of your disposition and work on them to become better. Make a list of all such traits, have your spouse do the same, and then go through them, so you can find where you were wrong in an earlier heated debate or where your partner stretched a line. Focus on negative comments, hurtful accusations and criticism thrown at each other and work together to remove and avoid such sordid and denunciating comments that could otherwise lead to a possible divorce for the future.