This week our brilliant dad feature is an awesome new dad blogger called Alex. Alex is from the UK and he has two sons, five year old Dylan and Two year old Nathan. Alex says he is a husband to someone way out of his league!
He blogs at The Dad Dance and says hopefully it’s a humorous, definitely honest tale of his ups and downs as an average dad balancing part time work and parenting. Please check out his blog and follow him on social media!
Thank you very much Alex for taking part…
1. Have you always wanted to be a dad?
Not really – but I’m delighted I am! I met my wife at university, so in the last 15 years or so, our lives have been through a lot of changes. Our first jobs, travelling, first house, getting married, etc. Becoming parents was something I guess we always figured we’d do, but it was also something that just kind of happened, rather than a change we meticulously planned.
2. How did you feel when your children were born?
It’s hard to describe. A lot of people talk about a lightning bolt moment, but I didn’t get that. When Dylan, our first son, was born, I just couldn’t believe we had made something so incredible and precious. But the bonding process happened over time rather than a sudden thing. With Nathan, our second, I knew more about what to expect but you still forget just how amazing it is to have a newborn suddenly become part of your world. Both times it’s made me admire my wife even more too. To be able to grow and then give birth to a little person is as close as humans get to magic. She did make a bit of a meal of it though – joking!
3. What have been the most rewarding experiences so far?
Just seeing them grow and develop their own unique personalities is brilliant and it makes me very proud when I have moments of seeing myself reflected in them – well, the good qualities anyway! I’ve also particularly enjoyed seeing them acquire language. It’s an extraordinary thing to witness and some of the stuff they come out with is just classic!
Great question! There are so many things you look back on and laugh about, even if they don’t feel funny at the time. Dylan as a 1 and 2 year old was a bit of a boob groper, which made for some awkward / amusing moments, especially in lifts. The other day I was on the tube with the boys and Nathan had me chuckling. The conversation went like this:
Dylan: What’s our stop?
Me: King’s Cross
Nathan: Why is he cross?
Cue a lot of laughing…and explaining!
Yes. Bringing up the boys is the most testing job I think I’ll ever do. And I’ve done a lot of it on a few hours’ sleep! Dylan had a long phase of biting and it caused a lot of problems with other parents, nursery staff and even some family members. There were some very tough moments during that time but we all worked hard at it, and he has stopped now.
To be happy, healthy and kind – whatever they decide to do. They are my heroes, so I hope they never stop being exactly who they are.