Nowadays I read so much about how dads are changing and are now connecting with their children on a new more involved level. This could well be because there are a lot more stay at home dads than ever before, although I believe that is still very much in its infancy and a very small percentage of dads. It could also be that men are now balancing work and family life better than before with possibly a little bit of help from their employers, but oh my goodness that has such a long way to go.
I have always had a very close and involved relationship with all my children, and my eldest daughter is 23 years old now. Does that make me a leader when it comes to being involved in my children’s lives? Possibly but I never saw myself like that. Nowadays there is so much talk of dads being open and more involved in their children’s lives. I have being doing this for the last twenty years and the fact that I see this happening with the younger generation of dads is so pleasing to watch. It shows we really are making strides as dads, and dads are finally beginning to realise that there is more to life than work, work and more work. Family and children are equally important.
From the moment my eldest daughter was born, I realised that I didn’t want to miss a thing and the most important thing in my life was being a father. Of course I needed to work, but I found a balance that allowed me to have time with my children, but also earn a living. Truth be known it wasn’t that difficult. It was about priorities and realising that taking a few hours away from work for sports day or the school play wasn’t a big issue. Of course it helped that I was self employed because I could decide without having to ask anyone, and I totally realise that it is not so simple when you work for somebody, but I’m sure with a little consultation with your employer things could be sorted out.
Dads are now connecting with their children more than ever and not using the age old excuses of “I can’t make it because of work”. Dads are standing up and being counted and saying, “No, I’m going. My children deserve for me to be there to watch them in their school play or sports day.” It’s not only good for them to see their dads there, but you as a dad get to create some cherished memories that will last a lifetime.
You can ultimately turn to yourself in the years to come and say I have no regrets. I made the effort to be there for my children for those important milestones, those special moments and connecting with my children.
Over the last month I have been involved with two initiatives around dads. The First was a review of a book called Dads Don’t Babysit It’s Called Equal Parenting written by Dave Freed and James Millar. It’s a fantastic book showing how dads are finally seen as equals when it comes to parenting. It’s a must read for dads and actually every parent.
The second was an independent survey carried out by DaddiLife, called the Dad Index 2018. Over 1,200 dads were surveyed across the UK, and finally there is definite proof that dads are very involved in their children’s lives. For example,, dads take their children to the park 3-6 times a month and that is one of the many things that may well surprise you. Check this out, it so worth a read.
These are two examples that I have personally been involved with to show that dads are more active and involved with their children’s lives.
As a dad are you more involved or active in your children’s lives? Do you make the bigger effort to be there for them? I would love to hear.