I Miss Being An Expectant Dad

The other day I was speaking to a friend on social media and they said they had sent a link to my blog to someone who had just become a father for the first time. I’m not sure why because I’m not sure I would have any useful advice or information about being a dad.

This took me instantly back 22 years and made me think about how I felt being an expectant dad, which of course regular readers of my blog know I have done this four times which resulted in five children. Yes I finished off with twin girls!

I have always felt that very little thought is given to men as expectant parents. I can kind of guess why. We do not have a baby growing inside of us, neither are we sick for months on end, and of course we don’t get an ever increasing belly, and in the latter stages struggling to sleep. So for that reason I fully understand the attention is always going to be on your pregnant partner, the woman in your life, but just sometimes it would be nice to see the dad get some attention. After all this is a pretty big moment for them too! They are going to be a dad for the first time.

Actually it didn’t matter to me whether it was the first time or the fourth time. It was always a moment to cherish and savour. It’s a very special moment that you are 50% of the reason that a new life is going to be born. That to me is a pretty awesome achievement.

I remember my feelings and thoughts on knowing I was going to be a dad, it’s something I vividly remember so clearly. It’s like having a scrambled brain as a million thoughts come and go at lightening speed. It’s the feeling of the unknown, especially with my first born and then also when my twin girls were born just six years ago. That was a particularly worrying time during the entire pregnancy, due to a variety of reasons.

It started with, I hope everything is okc followed quickly by, I wonder what they will look like. Will it be boy or girl? I wondered if they will look like me, what colour hair will they have, the positives just keep on coming in your mind as well as the fears that everything will be ok, and I have to say that all those feelings were exactly the same every time I was an expectant dad.

I always knew I wanted to be a dad one day. What I never realised was how much I loved being an expectant dad, and I miss it so very much. There is something very magical and wonderful when you find out you are going to be a dad. You are floating on a cloud, there is no other feeling in world to compare to it. I remember clearly wanting for it to go on forever. On the four occasions I have been an expectant father I have wanted to shout it from the rooftops. I’m going to be dad! I wanted the world to know that I was deliriously happy, and I just couldn’t keep it inside, or a secret.

Yes, I miss being an expectant father. It is that moment in life that has defined me as a human being, it was what I was meant to be, a dad.

So maybe next time you see a couple that are pregnant don’t just see the woman and wonder how she is feeling, ask the man how he’s feeling too.

You actually may be surprised that he is also super excited with the new forthcoming arrival I know I would have been over the moon and chuffed if somebody had just asked me, so dad how are you feeling about becoming a dad, and after four times of being an expectant dad I can honestly say I was never asked once, about my feelings, my fears or if you are hoping for a boy or a girl.

Am I going to get that wonderful feeling of being an expectant dad again? Very unlikely, but still we can still dream!

How did you feel when you were an expectant parent? I would love to hear.