Relationships (Don’t Change Me) Learn To Compromise 

Relationship’s are a minefield. They can be full of mis-trust, paranoia, arguments or least that’s what we read about most of the time.

Forming a relationship to me is a strange process because we meet somebody and we must be before anything else, physically attractive to each other. It’s that split second that your head explodes, your stomach does somersaults and you think, wow, and you have a very disturbing looking permanent smile that you can’t remove from your face!

Yes! You have found someone! Now you have to talk and not make a complete fool of yourself and start making up your own language, commonly known as gibberish!

If you have managed to get over these few first steps you just might be able to form a relationship, which of course in those early days amounts to jumping into bed at every waking moment! Wanting to be in each other’s company 24/7.

It really fascinates me how two people usually with totally different backgrounds, upbringings and hobbies, and quite possibly have different outlooks on life can meet each other and become instantly joined at the hip. It’s that unique and wonderful chemistry that manifests itself on meeting someone.

Once that honeymoon period is over, relationships will be tested and we find out if we are actually that well suited. All the little things, all those good and bad habits.

In so many relationships people in my opinion break the cardinal sin. They try to change the person that they fell in love with. Why is that? After all you fell in love with somebody the way they were and all of a sudden you don’t think they dress smart enough or talk out of place and in public they are too loud or say inappropriate comments or are just plain embarrassing. The thing is, they were always like that. You loved that about them or you would have dumped them after a week. So, why try and change them? This is to me is beyond reason!

When you start out in a relationship it fascinates me how when either of two people in the relationship suggest doing something like going to the cinema, for a meal or whatever and the other one just says yeh sure sounds fab. Then a few months or more down the line, suggesting to do something becomes a problem and there is no compromise. It almost becomes a power struggle, like a ‘who is in charge of this relationship’ attitude comes to my mind. In any relationship compromise is a huge factor for a relationship to work long term. You need to be able to please each other even when sometimes you don’t want to necessarily do that. You have to occasionally put yourself out.

Relationships are complicated and it never ceases to amaze me how often they work, but unfortunately in today’s world people give up too easily because I guess it’s easy to just walk away.

If there is no way that you cannot work out the problems in your relationship. There is always help online. Couples counselling is a great place to start putting things right.

Relationships require certain simple things to make them work in my opinion.

1. Trust: Without trust no relationship will go the distance.

2. Compromise: Without compromise no relationship will work. It’s important to please your partner as much as they please you.

3. Don’t Change: Remember who you fell in love with. All those lovely ways that you thought were cute.

4. Love: Love is the main factor in any relationship. Being totally in love with each other is the main secret to any successful relationship, at least that’s what I believe.

I would love to know your experiences and thoughts on relationships.