Couples And Counselling

When you meet the one, all of us instantly think this is it. My life is mapped out and nothing will ever change. Of course that is very the beginning of a relationship when no matter what you do, the other person never sees anything wrong in what you are doing. Over time it’s completely normal that gradually this begins to erode, and it is those small irritating habits that your partner has which become more noticeable, and all of sudden you actually start to begin to blow those bad habits out of all proportion. The reason why we do… [Read More]

Physical Violence in Relationships 

I recently read a post by Alan at Omg it’s a girl about domestic violence, and that in Ireland there is a campaign underway. The statistics of domestic violence that Alan quoted were massive, but it didn’t surprise me one bit, especially the figures of domestic violence against men by their partners, wive’s or girlfriends. The post brought back some personal unhappy memories for me. Which I hadn’t thought about for a long while, but felt need to write it down. For years the stigma attached to men being abused by the women in their lives has been swept under… [Read More]

Why Do Kids Become Weapons: When Relationship’s Go Wrong

Divorce in the world today is forever on the increase. There are probably a number of reasons why it’s on the rise. The pressures of life are far greater than ever before with work and money worries, which also seem to be greater today than ever before. Generally speaking the pressures of life and relationships in particular can be immense. It appears nowadays that people split up and file for divorce very quickly, because it’s easier than ever to get divorced. If I’m honest, divorce being easier to achieve is actually a good thing, and of course nowadays it does… [Read More]

Sisters: My Sunday Photo

On Wednesday just gone it was my birthday, and my 20 year old daughter came home from university for a few days. Which was wonderful as I got to see her on my birthday, many moments make your life worthwhile, and my Sunday Photo this week is without a doubt, one of them. Whenever my daughter E comes home from university, her sisters R and M are so excited to see her, they love having her around, and cuddles are the order of the day. They are always asking her when she is due back home so they can see… [Read More]

The Older I Get The More It Hurts: Siblings

Another year has passed and I’m another year older. The older I get, the more think of the estranged relationships I have with my brother and sister, and quite honestly it hurts a bit more every year. When I was born I had a mother, father, brother and sister. I have on many previous occasions written how this family nucleus became estranged and dysfunctional. However, cutting a long story short, I only have a relationship with my mum, and my father passed away a few years ago, not that it made any difference to our relationship because we simply didn’t… [Read More]

Having Children: Does It Help Or Put Pressure On Your Relationship?

When you meet the one, those early times of your relationship are wonderful and carefree. You can please yourselves and do what you want, when you want. You can both be incredibly selfish and my goodness it is wonderful! Totally loved up and just each other to worry about. What could possibly go wrong? Children can either help and improve your relationship, or they can send it on a road to disaster. I have in truth lived through both in two marriages. In my first marriage, we had three children in the space of three and half years. It took… [Read More]

Divorce Helped Me Form A Strong Bond With My Older Children

Coming from a divorced family life as a child, it would for many years cement the fact in my mind that I never wanted children. It wasn’t until my eldest child was born that I realised I’d felt that way originally  because my own parents simply didn’t care about their children. They were far too selfish and pre-occupied with their own needs. Then I got married and from my first marriage, I had three children who are now aged 22, 20 and 18 years old. The marriage to my first wife was toxic for a long time and it was… [Read More]

The Ingredients Of A Happy Relationship

I am always amazed when I read what so called experts in relationships consider the key factors that make a happy relationship. I have long thought that people today, especially the younger generation jump into relationships much too quickly. It seems to me that as quick as people meet each other, they are moving in together and possibly having a baby. This all happens before you have had any chance to get to know each other and have a better understanding if you’re actually compatible. Before you know it, you’ve split up and you’re left to re-build your life, which… [Read More]