Parenting is the hardest job in the world. There is no text book or school of knowledge you can go to in order to learn the art of parenting, so how do we learn to be a parent?
Well, it’s simple really. By becoming parents it’s a huge learning curve that will send you on a rollercoaster of emotions and make you doubt every decision you ever make as a parent, and as often as you get right, you will also get it wrong just as often. Years ago, this really didn’t matter. People were not observing you the way they do today.
We now have the curse of social media where our every move of being a parent is observed and more often than not criticised with people saying that you shouldn’t parent that way, it’s wrong etc, your sending out mixed messages to your children. What a load of nonsense!
The people that are looking at our parenting skills are our children, and quite honestly they don’t care how often we get it right or wrong for that matter. They just care that we care and love them to the best of our abilities, which quite often can fall short, but weighed up to how often we get it right they won’t care. We are just mum and dad there for them no matter what.
So when I look online and in particular at social media, and let’s narrow it down a bit more to Instagram, and see these contrived happy family photos that supposedly personify the happy children and family image, it really irritates me. Have we become so obsessed with image that we can no longer post anything online? That doesn’t show the perfect family with perfectly turned out children. It is without doubt what I despise about such social media channels such as Instagram. It is without doubt 95% fake and should be ignored, taking too much notice is done at your peril.
My five top tips for getting it right when you are parent are:
Loving your children is the greatest gift we can give any of our children. It is what they will remember as they grow up, that mum and dad loved them unconditionally. This will be imprinted in their minds as they grow up and hopefully make them good parents.
Teaching them to respect other people and that everybody has an opinion. It may not be what you always agree with, but everybody has a right to an opinion and that should never be disrespected.
3. Right From Wrong
Teaching your children the simple basics of what is the right thing to do and what is wrong to help to understand that sometimes it is worth taking a step back and thinking about a decision and if it doesn’t feel right the chances are it’s wrong.
4. Be True To Yourself
This is a difficult one but teaching our children to follow their heart and make decisions about their lives which is right for them. You must always be true to yourself. If you are, then those important decisions will be the right ones. Don’t be convinced by others to do something that is against your values.
5. Teaching our children to be Independent
Teaching your children independence will keep them on the right path for the rest of their lives. Teach them to make their decisions from an early age will give them confidence later in life to achieve whatever they decide they want to do.
So there are five tips for getting it right as a parent, but believe me I get it constantly wrong, but just now and again I feel an overwhelming feeling of pride that I have actually nailed the parenting game.
What do you teach your children that hopefully will make them good adults? I would love to hear.