At the end of this month my twin girls will turn six years old. Their tastes, characters and personalities have really developed now and OMG how different they are. I actually don’t mean just the odd thing that is different they are at the best of times polar opposites.
The last few weeks I have been doing the school run full-time because I have been unable to work because of my recent health scare.
When we arrive home from school, the first of their differences becomes very obvious. I tell the girls to go and change out of their uniforms, which as good as gold they always do.
They then wander out of their bedroom into the lounge, so I take a quick look in their bedroom and I’m instantly faced with a very similar picture that I see every day.
R’s school uniform is all folded neatly with clean underwear laid out for the next day. M on the other hand, well, her school uniform is where it has landed once she has taken it off, as you can see in the picture below.
When the girls wake up in the morning, they could not be more different.
M is alive and fully awake, raring to go. Her zest for life and her energy is contagious, and never fails to make me smile.
Within minutes of waking up she is running up and down the lounge performing ballet moves. Or pretending to be a princess.
Then I look across the room and R is on the sofa tucked up under a blanket watching CBeebies, and to get her to talk even just one word, is like trying to get blood from a stone. They couldn’t be more different.
I have written before how R loves superheroes and M is our resident princess. Well a few years down the line this has not changed one little bit. Recently on a shopping trip to buy new shoes, R picked Star Wars trainers, and M picked sparkling shoes.
Would you get R in a dress? Haha! I would like to see someone try! She is definitely a joggers/jeans and t-shirt kind of girl. M on the other hand loves her dressing up outfits, one day Moana, the next Cinderella.
The one most noticeable difference I see in their personalities, is probably the one thing most people don’t notice except of course their mum, but when you are with your children for the vast majority of their lives, you learn all about their funny little ways.
R comes across as the strong one with a ‘nothing bothers me’ attitude, but what I see hiding under this attitude is a sensitive little girl that actually wants to please everybody. Unfortunately she hasn’t quite got the intellect to help her show this in a positive manner. Sadly at times her inability to be positive and please people makes her moody and angry. As she gets older I’m sure that will change.
M on the other hand, as I have said let’s life flow past her. She is not bothered by anything and has this lovely, happy go lucky character. Long may it last.
With my twin girls I have always been amazed at how different the girls are, and with just two minutes between them, of course there are lots of similarities between the girls, but I like the thought that they may be twins, but they are also individuals as well. They are totally unique. They are themselves. They may be twins, but to me they are simply my daughters, R and M, and I love them so much.
Twins may be born at the some time, but for me it’s vital that we encourage they develop their own character and personality. To be their own person.
I would love to know your thoughts.