So You Won’t Change When You Become A Parent? HaHa! 

There are some things that really amuse me in life, and one particular situation that never ceases to raise a smile and a little giggle if I’m honest is listening to people who have no children, but are possibly planning a family in the near future. Hearing them saying that having a baby won’t change the way they live their lives.

OMG!

It will change you to the point where you won’t recognise yourself at times. Believe me I have five children and I am not even close to how I was before having children.

Of course there will always be exceptions to the rule and a couple that come to mind are of Prince William and his missus. The times I have heard them say they are hands on parents. Really? Who are they kidding? They are constantly jetting around the world, and where are their sprogs during this? Back home being look after by an army of nannies. Still when the tax payer is picking up the bill it’s easily done. My rant on royalty finished. I’m sure you can tell I’m a royalist, NOT!

So what changes when you become a parent? Here are a few, but I’m sure many more can be added.

1. Spontaneity. It’s gone! No longer can you just go to the cinema or for a meal, deciding it’s a good idea and you are sitting down 10 minutes later.

2. Romance. On a spur of the moment any time of the day you jump into bed and get it on, nowadays you have a time slot that works around the kids being in bed or at school.

3. TV. Watching grown-up tv not CBeebies day in day out and eventually you know every character and probably every line in every show because I’m convinced they have a seven day repeat on them, haha!

4. Gaming. I used to play Xbox for hours and hours and hours. Now my beloved Xbox is a very expensive DVD player for guess who? My children! They even own that now!

5. Money. Being single or a couple you had money to burn, to spend as and when you want, and if you spent all of your money, you didn’t need to worry as you could wait the three days to payday. No longer the case! You have to budget because it is apparently not acceptable to allow your children to go hungry.

6. Identity. This is one that has always amused me. There was a time that I had a name and I was an individual. Not a anymore! Now I just someone’s dad with no name.

There are of course so many other things that change in your life when you become a parent. Sleep is something of the past. A lie-in on a Sunday? Please, oh, please! Can I have it back! You become a dad taxi, dad bank, to name but a few.

So for those thinking of starting a family, be warned your life will change beyond regonition, but it’s worth every single second because having children is a blessing and beautiful beyond comparison experience. Yes it alters you as as an individual, but it also completes you as a human being.

So next time you hear somebody saying that they won’t change after having children, speak up and tell them that they will, but that it’ll make them a better person for it.

Would love to know your thoughts.