Nowadays when people meet their life partner they so often rush into living together and getting married. They go into way too quickly. In some cases this is absolutely great if it works out, but so often people who rush into marriage do so without really getting to know their partner properly. Of course the consequences of getting married so quickly could mean they end up in the divorce courts. This is something in which statistics prove unequivocally that divorce is definitely on the increase in those early years of marriage.
The average marriage lasts about 12 years which is not very long considering you have signed up to be married forever. So what happens? Why do couples end up in such a bad place that divorce seems to be the only answer? What can be done to help a marriage be strong and last forever?
Here are a few of my suggestions that I think could help couples.
1. Understanding Each Other
When you are just dating each other it can be difficult at times to work out what both of you want. Although you’re all loved up and can’t get enough of each other’s company, which of course is completely normal, I mean it’s new and awesome fun, but it should also be a time when you need to find out that your long term goals are the same. This leads me onto my second suggestion.
Once you have been together for a certain amount of time, your relationship evolves to the point where the next natural step is to get married and spend the rest of your lives together, but what if you are not as compatible as you first thought? What if your aims and ambitions differ from your future husband or wife?
A good way forward to make sure that you are on the same page is to have some pre-marital therapy. In today’s world this is very easy and can be done in the comfort of your own home by simply going online. The days of having to going somewhere, and most likely feel very uncomfortable are gone. It can all be done online in a relaxed atmosphere, which will hopefully then let you iron out any possible problems you may have once you are married.
One of biggest problems that marriages face is people’s inability to compromise when there is an argument or a disagreement. It so important to know when to take a step back and just say that’s ok, I’m happy to not be so insistent on this or that. It makes for a much happier marriage when you both learn to respect that both of you will have a difference of opinion occasionally or you simply don’t want to do the same thing. That is learning the art of compromise.
It’s important in my opinion that before you enter into a marriage you learn your life partners needs, aims and ambitions, and that you want have a happy life together. As I have said with divorce on the rise it is so important that you’ve ironed out the differences before you take one of biggest steps of your life.
I would love to hear your views in the comments below.
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