Well! 2018 has been a year where the role of the dad has been re-defined, re-labelled and now there are multiple choices if you are dad of what you can call yourself.
You can be a stay home at dad, a working dad, a dad blogger, instadad, a gay dad, a dad that can show emotion, a dad that is cool or more than likely uncool, seriously what dad is cool according to his children?!
For me all these labels that we are calling dads is ludicrous and quite honestly ridiculous, and 2018 it has completely gone over the top and is totally out of control. We seem to be labelling ourselves as a particular dad and then wearing the label and shouting it from the rooftops.
Why? What’s the point?
It doesn’t make us any better or worse as dads. Will we eventually have to walk around with a badge that says I’m a working dad, but yes I cry when my children do something cute, just so everybody knows that I am in touch with my emotions and my children can reduce me to tears. Why oh why is it so important to tell the world? That is totally beyond my comprehension. The world doesn’t need to know what sort of dad I am. The only ones that need to know that are my children.
Let’s just be dads! Which is all we are. It doesn’t matter what we do, whether that be work or a stay at home dad etc. The same as it doesn’t matter if we are gay or straight. What does matter is that our children know we love them, and I don’t mean by showing them your latest Instagram photo which is invariably over edited, and an over rehearsed photo of you kissing your child with a post of something like a just caught this moment by pure chance etc. Please who are we trying to fool? Ourselves, that’s who.
Being a dad no matter what your circumstances or living arrangements in truth can be very hard. It can also be easy, but it also means you can’t always be there all the time for your children, for so many reasons, but that doesn’t matter, because when you are there be the best you can be as a dad. Caring, attentive, listening to your children and most importantly loving them and love being with them. Enjoy watching your children grow up. Simple really isn’t it.
I am genuinely very tired of dads labelling dads, and as I said this year is completely over the top. I simply doesn’t matter. We are just dads. Some of us show emotion, some of us don’t, some of us cry easily, some of us struggle to show emotion, but that shouldn’t define us as dads. We are individuals that have different characters, personalities and upbringings that have moulded us into the dads we are and we should stop trying to change that and pigeon hole men into a certain type of dad.
Let’s be honest when you are out with your children and they meet a friend who are also with their parents. You or I would not introduce ourselves as, “Hi I’m Nigel I’m my child’s working dad” or some other label. so why are we doing it constantly on social media and online. Makes no sense to me.
Let’s make 2019 the year we embrace fatherhood, and live and let live, and stop labelling dads as a particular type of dad, whatever our backgrounds or circumstances.
Do you think we are labelling dads to much? I would love to hear your thoughts.