Gender Stereotyping Is Not Going To Stop My 5 Year Twin Girls: So They Say

Nearly every morning my five year old twins wake up at around 6am which is ok because they are usually fast asleep by 6.45pm every night.

The downside for me is that once I’m awake that’s it, I can’t go back to sleep, so I generally get up with the them, while their mum lies in bed with her eye mask on and earplugs in, dreaming in the land of nod. Haha!

I always sit with the girls on the sofa while they watch CBeebies and it’s a time of day I love, because they chat away about all sorts of things and recently they have been telling me what they want to be when they grow up. THis has been very enlightening to say the least. I often wonder how they are influenced, what do they watch or see that puts these things in their minds? It’s always fascinated me.

I have written on numerous occasions how very different my twin girls are in personality, character and their tastes are miles apart when I wrote Superhero v Princess it just summed them up perfectly.

So the other morning we were chatting about what jobs they wanted to do and it gave me a glimpse into the future when possibly there will be no gender inequality and women will be seen as a mans equal. Sadly this is still many years away, but maybe just maybe we are finally moving in the right direction.

Firstly R told me that she wanted to be vet or farmer, or in fact both although there are many female vets it’s still is a male dominant profession. Farmers on the other hand is very much a male dominated profession. It’s great though that she is thinking outside of the usual stereotypical roles or jobs that society thinks women should do.

On the other hand her sister has a completely different idea and also is going to be very busy. When I asked her what she was going to be when she was older, she reeled off a list of things, teacher, doctor, nurse, gymnast, ballet dancer and oh, a farmer and a vet too. Where she is going to fit all of this in I really don’t know!

The most interesting point of our conversations was that both the girls at five years of age have no boundaries to what they want to be when they are older. Is this just the innocence of childhood or are the aspirations of this generation greater and believe they can actually achieve anything? Which of course they will able to, as long as society stops putting boundaries on women in particular.

The stereotyping of women is abhorrent in society and I’m hoping that by the time my five year old twins are ready to step out in the big wide world. Society will be embracing women as engineers, surgeons, road workers or indeed hairdressers, beauticians, in fact absolutely anything. It does seem that at five years old my girls believe. Here is hoping that society doesn’t condition them to think otherwise.

Do your little ones tell you what they want to be when they are older? I would love to hear.


8 thoughts on “Gender Stereotyping Is Not Going To Stop My 5 Year Twin Girls: So They Say

  1. Well, interesting this Nigel. I once went on the Victoria Derbyshire show to talk about this very subject. Just before hand, my youngest told me that “girls are nurses and boys are doctors” I think people really, really underestimate how – unconsciously – they fill they kids’ heads with stereotypes. I also recall some friends of ours telling my wife how they’d instructed their daughter’s nursery that the two male childcare practitioners that worked there were not to accompany their daughter to the lavatory. It was, the mum said, a “strange profession for a man.” Not just sexist, but sending an appalling message to their own daughter about their being jobs for men and women (although I seem to recall our Prime Minister said something similar recently).

  2. My middle kid wants to be a mechanic and own a classic car restoration shop, which is great. He get’s that from his mum.
    My oldest, honestly don’t know what he wants. I can see him being a nurse, mystery writer or a nutty professor. He’s emotional, a thinker and a carer. He get’s that from me. I’d have loved to have been a nurse, nursery teacher or primary school teacher but being a man, I always felt pushed out from pursuing those options as they are women’s spheres (and I mean mostly discouraged by women more than men). So I guess men in many ways are trapped by gender stereotypes as well as women. Until men and women are allowed to woork in each other’s ‘traditional’ spheres, things won’t change and that’s on everyone.

    My Youngest? Well he just wants to be in the Scooby gang.

    My young nieces are interesting. Neither of their parents are into pink or anything seen as ‘traditionally girly’ but their girls love pink sparkly stuff (and what’s wrong with that), wheras their interests are in sound engineering, making stuff, climbing trees and experimental 80’s electronic music (product of their parents). They don’t know who’s in the x-factor but could tell you the names of everyone in the Smiths and pick out a Cure song from 100 paces. They’re who they want to be,don’t conform to any stereotypes and I hope they are allowed to continue that way. I encourage it with my own kids but as parents we are constantly up against the influence of society and their peers.

  3. #triumphanttales love this hun, my son usually stays stereotypical with hero, policeman or iron man…however, I’m gonna save a fortune on tuition fees if he goes with these, as for your vet, doctor, nurse…start saving for university. 😉

  4. Things seem to be changing all the time now and more and more women are doing jobs that they couldn’t do before as society wouldn’t let them. I think our children can be whatever they want to be if they put their minds to it.

  5. Yes! They absolutely can do whatever they choose! Let’s hope they continue to believe this and that those of us who are adults now can keep fighting so that the world is ready for this by the time our children grow up! #triumphanttales

  6. I love that they see no reason why they can’t be anything they want to be! I really hope it stays that way. I can remember wanting to be a mechanic when I was little. I think that may have had something to do with Charlene in Neighbours though! 😆 Thanks for linking up to #TriumphantTales, hope to see you again next week! 🙂

  7. I truly hope that by the time my girls are in the working world, they really can be whatever they want to be whether it be a truck driver or a ballerina. One of my daughters wants to be a police officer while the other wants to be a dancer so very different and I’m sure it’ll change a million times over the years but like you, I just want them to feel that anything is possible. #TriumphantTales

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