Last year in March 2017 I wrote a post called Oh No! A Text I Never Wanted To Read. The post was all about my eldest daughter texting me about possibly going to live in Australia. My heart sank instantly and I struggled to come to terms with the thought of one of my children living on the other side of the world. I have only gone and had another one of those texts.
Since March of last year not a lot has been said about going to live in Australia until just a few days ago.
Yes! The dread filled my heart again and I received a text from my daughter J saying what’s the best airline to fly to Australia with? Its many years since I lived in Australia, but I suggested Qantas mainly because they were the best airline when I was living there, and yes I had to tag on the end of the text “why’s that then?” Curiosity was getting the better of me.
We had a little chat via text about it all, and she said she is thinking of going for a holiday with her partner/boyfriend at the end of this year. She also joked that once they had experienced Australia they wouldn’t want come back. The truth of that is it is probably true. She won’t want to come back. The more I think about it, I wonder what is to come back to in this very messed up and dysfunctional country called the UK.
We will be leaving the E.U. in the next couple of years, which I believe will have a massively detrimental effect on our young generation. The opportunities in the UK are going to be dramatically reduced once we are on our own and not part of Europe, anymore. We need Europe more than they need us. Businesses are going to be leaving in their droves to set up somewhere else in Europe. As soon as brexit comes to a close, the future of the UK’s younger generation, which just happens to be our future leaders is looking bleak, in my humble opinion.
So it looks like my eldest daughter and her boyfriend will be going on holiday to Australia at the end of the year. She has spoken to her cousin who lives in Western Australia about the best places to visit, and there is no doubt that once she sets her mind to something she will achieve it. So I fully expect them to go on holiday to Australia.
We did have a conversation on the phone yesterday and I think she sees this as testing the waters, with the potential to moving to Australia. I did joke with her that it’s ok if her boyfriend wants to stay there, but she has to come home. Even though I’m joking and we can laugh about it, there is the tiniest bit of truth in what I’m saying. I know! She is 22 years old and you have to let go sooner or later. I suppose. I just don’t want to! Help!
The reality is your children do become adults and they take the responsibility of making their own decisions about what they want from their lives. We as parents have to take a back seat and watch them find their way in the world, whichever part of the world that may be.
Seriously I would never stand in the way of any decision my children make, but the thought of not having my daughter around the corner from where I live is one where it leaves me with a heavy heart. I guess if we could, we would all have our children living nearby forever. But the world has changed and got smaller and it so easy to travel to different countries quickly and easily nowadays.
There is of course phones, video calling etc, but it’s not quite the same as calling in for a chat during the week. Anyways time will tell. Going for a holiday is, I think the best plan to see if you like the place and would help in making a more informed decision about going to live in Australia.
Whatever my eldest daughter, J, decides it will be the right decision for her and her life. If it all went pear shaped I will still be here to help in any way I can, because no matter what age your children are, the deal of the parent is to be a parent for a lifetime.
I would love to hear your comments.